Sr High...

I feel like I'm finding my groove in the Sr. High ministry now. I have a couple of kids who have volunteered to start the student leadership team. My hope is that these guys will use their influence with others to help students really own this ministry.

This past sunday, I hit the topic "How far is too far physically?" in relationships. I attempted to shift their perspective on this from "Is this ok?" to "Is this Wise" I left them with a few key points that i'll leave for you too.

So let’s get practical. How far is too far?

• It is too far when you use someone just to meet your needs or wants.

• It is too far when you run the danger of being overwhelmed by an avalanche of forces bigger than your strengths.

• It is too far when you cause the person you’re dating to compromise his or her personal convictions.

• And while we cannot draw lines in the sand for everyone in every situation, it is too far when what you do is not the wise thing to do.

There are a couple of other principles that may help as you make these decisions.

• First, retreating physically is difficult and sometimes impossible to do in a relationship.

• Also, the more serious a relationship is, the more the physical relationship can grow with it. In other words, an engagement should carry different physical standards than a relationship in its first week.

• Third, our natural tendency in the heat of the moment is to make decisions based on self-deception instead of honesty. In other words, Wise Choices are often made on the front end when we are not dating anyone.

• Lastly, all this should be done as we listen to what the Spirit of God is telling us.

What do you think?